God made us capable of having a deep personal intimate relationship with Him, and with our spouses, all at the same time.
In this 'sacred intimacy' of one man and one woman, God desires for us to multiply and fill the earth with godly offspring that will reflect His image of unfailing love to this lost and dying world we live in. He gets great pleasure out of watching our off spring doing the will of God generationally. Our marriages were never meant to be about us alone, but about God's unfailing love, and His intimate involvement with us, and our families eternally.
In light of what is happening in society today, keeping your marriages loving and strong in the Lord has truly become a sacred obligation. If we truely love God with our whole heart we won't be looking for a way out, even if our relationships are dead in the water. This truly breaks God's heart for He is able to soften the hardest of hearts. All He needs is for just one spouse to come humbly before Him and ask Him to supernaturally intervene, even if a divorce has taken place. He can reconcile you again. He can restore any breach we make, and knit us back together again so His glory will be known to our children, and our grandchildren. He wants them to be able to take this knowledge with them. Our children learn from watching us humble ourselves and asking God for His help. Nothing is lost and everything gained when we put our trust in a God who is faithful and able to do the impossible, remember nothing is too hard for Him!
Even if a wayward spouse has entered into a 'man authorized' remarriage with someone else, we have God's Word on it that this is unaceptable in His eyes. God calls it adultery not a marriage. Even if your pastor or others in the church call it a marriage, it is not! It is what God says it is!
When a covenant spouse dies then and only then will God sanctify your relationship and call it a marriage, but first you must confess your sin of adultery and repent of it and turn away from any sexual activity. Then ask God to make your relationship 'one' in Him and He will then sanctify your relationship and call it a marriage, then you can come together again in holy sexual unity. We are to do things His way not ours.
God's desire is for us to walk in forgiveness, and demonstrate His kind of love to one another for His Son's name sake, it's not always about us and what we want.
There being no one innocent, no not even one! Yeshua had to come, and Praise God He did. He loved us enough to come and show us The Way back to His Father by giving us a brand new Covenant Promise that if we acknoledge our sin, humble ourselves, and repent, His blood will wash us clean of all our sins and restore us back to wholeness again!!!
This side of the cross even the sin of divorce, or the sin of an adulterous marriage can be forgiven. God will not sanctify adultery even if the so called church today does. We must repent for taking on the world's view in marriage. The ways of God may look too hard at times, but when you look at the long term effects of what we are doing to our children and society generationally we can no longer plead 'ignorance'.